Divorce: is it just a matter of time?
A happy new divorce?
The winter holidays and divorce are odd bedfellows. From Thanksgiving through New Years, many people would view filing a divorce as inappropriate, as being in bad taste or simply mean spirited. Especially if you have young children, attempting to explain why mommy or daddy is throwing all of their clothes into a suitcase and leaving would be traumatic.
Part 2: New Research on the Impact of Divorce on Children
As we stated in our last article, the media and general community tend to view divorce as having a negative impact on children. The recent article "Deconstructing the Impact of Divorce on Children" written by Sol R. Rappaport and published in the Family Law Quarterly (a publication of the American Bar Association) suggests that based on current research, it appears the majority 75 to 80 percent of children do not have psychological difficulties post divorce. In fact, most children do well post divorce and do not seem different from their peers whose families are intact. While children may miss having the ideal family and have negative feelings towards their parent's divorce, it is no different than other children who experience other childhood difficulties such as the loss of a parent. Having stressful and challenging events does not necessarily mean that the child will have psychological difficulties.
Should all custody cases be joint custody?
Child custody is often a complex issue in most divorces. In a marriage, many of the decisions regarding the children's affairs, from where they go to the doctor to who picks them up after football or dance practice can be decided ad hoc. They may be driven by what is most convenient or what make the most sense, and they can be inherently fluid.
Part 1: New Research on the Impact of Divorce on Children
American culture has convinced society that divorce has short and long-term negative effects on children. We hear this through the news media, talk shows and religious organizations. This, for the most part, is not completely true. The recent article "Deconstructing the Impact of Divorce on Children" written by Sol R. Rappaport and published in the Family Law Quarterly (a publication of the American Bar Association) suggests otherwise.