How to do I talk to my soon-to-be spouse about a prenup?

On behalf of Stange Law Firm, PC posted in Family Law on Friday, June 19, 2015.

For many couples, a prenuptial agreement is synonymous with one word: distrust. It is not a fun topic to discuss, as it lends to the idea that you believe you will not be together forever, and if that’s the case, why get married at all? Yet a prenup can be very beneficial for both parties and can save a lot of money and headache down the road, should the worst happen.

A prenuptial agreement is not a topic you want to wait until the week of the wedding to discuss. The earlier you begin the conversation, the easier it will be. If they are not on board at the beginning, listen to and address their concerns. This agreement may be coming as a big shock to them, and they may need time to adjust to the idea.

Explain to your partner why you want this agreement. Perhaps you value your independence, or your family has a history of divorce. If they can understand why you want a prenup, they may be more willing to sign one.

Once it is decided that you will get a prenup, don’t leave your partner out to dry. Find an attorney who is well-versed in family law issues who represents you both equally. Going to a personal lawyer will often lead to one side being represented better than the other in the agreement. If you are able to both be equally heard, the process becomes much easier.

Finally, leave room for adjustment. No one knows what the future holds. You may decide to open a boutique together that becomes wildly successful. These are events that should cause amendments to the agreement.

If you and your partner want to create a prenuptial agreement in Missouri, an experienced family law attorney can be very beneficial. They may also be helpful if you are already married but are interested in a postnuptial agreement.

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